The bigger question is if your stuff will be archived/otherwise still around when your (hypothetical) children are old enough to search the Internet. My LJ posts aren’t around; a few IRC quotes and old Usenet posts are.

Yeah, Julia’s mommy and daddy met on #ireland, conducted an IRC/AIM relationship for almost five years before moving in together, and are currently sitting at respective computers down the hall from each other IMing while we conduct other online business.

:)

sambo
(yes, that sambo)

On one hand, I tend to wonder about the determination of the childfree — if they do experience an accidental pregnancy, will they abort simply because children weren’t in their plans? Will they place for adoption? It’s a messy emotional situation to predict. Determining that you never plan to conceive is one thing — determining that you would definitively abort, barring severe medical issues etc. . . . seems a lot harder. Thus, saying that any child would never occur seems hard.

On the other hand, telling a mature adult that he and his wife will, of course, have kids seems arrogant and rude. People make their own choices, and if they’re not choosing to have kids, you can’t simply say, oh, whatever, you’ll change your mind later — how arrogant is that?

Bias disclaimer: I was born 17 years after my mother’s tubal ligation (after she’d had Irish quadruplets), and am a mother of two daughters, one adopted, one conceived with fertility medication. I’ve conceived and lost multiple pregnancies, and I’m not sure what I would have done with any of them wrt continuing or terminating, but the choices were made for me by genetic and hormonal chance.